5 Big Ways to Stop Stressing in 2018
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Stress is a part of life, right? Yes. It's natural to stress from time to time, but that doesn't have to be your constant reality. I used to worry about getting things done all the time. Stress stops you from being present in meetings and kills productivity. Below are 5 ways to stop stressing in 2018.

Last week I pulled off a 20-hour day. Yep... twenty of good hours of brain power. Here's what I did:

7am Wake up, pray and get dressed for work

8:40am Leave for work

9am - 6:45pm Work

7pm - 7:45pm Run errands (Stopped by the Beauty Supply Store and grabbed dinner from Chipotle)

7:45pm - 12am Work on To Do List (COTC needs, answer emails from last week, write a letter of recommendation for branding client, schedule tweets through the weekend)

12am- 1am Gym

1am - 2am Netflix

I'm not superwoman, but I have learned how to do it all while working full-time. Every day is NOT a 20-hour day, but most days are filled with knocking things off my never ending To Do list. Below are a few ways I cut down stress with such a hectic schedule.

Get Organized

You can handle 20 hour days if you set yourself up for success. The first step to being organized is to write down everything that you need to do. Sit still for 5 to 10 minutes to create a master list then organize those tasks by level of importance. I try to start with things I don't like to do like answering emails and scheduling tweets then jump into writing content and planning my Instagram feed.

Save Money

I'm a spender by nature so saving isn't my favorite thing to do, but it’s been essential to getting off the broke bus. I sometimes struggle and live paycheck to paycheck, but I'm working hard on saving to avoid this behavior. I am currently saving for retirement (401k), emergencies, our wedding and my 26th birthday. Saving towards goals makes the act of saving worth my time. 

Here's my savings breakdown:

Retirement: My 401k is through my job and they match my donation. #winning

Wedding: I'm saving for our wedding using Rize. You can sign up here and get $5 for free. I love Rize because I can watch my money grow monthly. It was simple to setup and it's easy to adjust my savings goals. 

Emergency Fund: This one is my first priority. I am currently saving $300 per month for this fund. I want to save up 6 months’ worth of expenses in case I'm ever out of a job or can't hustle like I want to.

Stay Inspired

20-hour work days require inspiration. You must remember why you're working so hard to be successful. Are your kids your motivation? Does the next generation excite you? Never forget your "Why." For me, I get inspired looking at successful Black women across social media, style influencers on Pinterest and the creatives around me. I only spend time with people who I love and/or inspire me. There is no gray about this. People will either feed you or drain you. The choice is yours.

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Say No

Sigh. You must learn how to say no to stop stressing. Your life will change when you stop agreeing to attend events that don't interest you and quit wasting time gossiping. It's tempting to Netflix and Chill, but what about meeting bae at a coffee shop and discussing your goals? When was the last time you turned your phone off and journaled? It is okay to say "no" to other people and "yes" to yourself.

Treat Yo'self

Spa days kill stress. I'm a sucker for a good facial when it's within my budget or a gift. I can’t describe the feeling after being away from my phone and To Do list for hours, but it's magical. Spas are expensive so check out Groupon deals and shop for massages during major holidays when businesses run promotions. I like to treat myself to a facial and/or massage once per quarter. Work hard, play hard. 

I hope that these tips were helpful and insightful. Say no to stress in 2018. May your edges and skin flourish all year long. Click here to download 20 Free Apps and Resources You Need to Do It All and Still Slay.

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What Was I Thinking? Love...
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Before Love Hit Me 

I used to think that I could do anything under the sun on my own. There was a time when my inner feminist stood taller than the Empire State building. I was so sure that I could and should do everything that a man could do. I was positive that I only needed a man to procreate and that we were equal aside from that. But things have changed. I know that I told you that love wasn't enough. The funny thing is... I've found that it is.

Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
— 1 Corinthians 13:13 NLT

what is love?

Love is a lot of things. Definitions can vary per the author, but to me love is hope. The greatest love story ever told is about Jesus Christ dying on the cross for us. I'm reminded of John 15:13, "There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends."

As my boyfriend and I celebrated Valentine's Day earlier this week, which also meant we made it to 1 year committed to each other, I couldn't help but overflow with love. It amazes me that the same loving God who died for our sins, gave me someone who would be an example of that daily.

Dating someone who is patient has given me a new revelation on who God is. I've never been patient... like even before the social media craze started, I've always wanted my way instantly. I guess that's the life of a 90s baby.

God isn't like that though. He doesn't rush us to become perfect and he doesn't expect us to handle life on our own. His love gives us the power and freedom that we need to withstand life's storms. God has always been my source for everything and it's taken me seeing His qualities in a mere man to figure out how much He truly cares for me. God's love is perfect.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!
— 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NLT

perfect love

Wow! Who wouldn't want to experience a love like this? God uses people as instruments to remind us of who He is. Sometimes we all get a little off track then look up and we can't even see the track. And that's okay. The Bible says all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.

But you don't have to stay fallen away. It's by His love, grace and mercy we can make it another day. I say all of this to say that love is enough. Do not let the brokenness of your past stop you from entering a new season of love. 

You can't rush God's timing. Trust me, I tried. That rushing period is a piece of our story that I like to sweep under the rug. I was so anxious to be with my boyfriend that I was willing to do anything to obtain his love and even after we got together, I couldn't accept that he was mine because I saw our relationship as a competition instead of a blessing. 

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It wasn't until we allowed God into our situation that brokenness began to heal. God's plans are always of good and not evil. Even in your darkest moments, God cares.

I am saying all of this to say that now is the perfect time to open your heart to Jesus and say no to the broken little girl inside of you yearning for validation.

It's time to let that hurt go, sis.

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How to Create an Irresistible Instagram Profile
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Are you ready to experience gaining authentic followers everyday? This is my last instagram centered post for awhile. I'm hopping over to Pinterest next, but before I do I wanted to share some tips for creating an irresistible instagram profile. Oh yeah, keep reading to get all of the details!

 

STOP! Before you indulge in this gem of a post, make sure you read my previous instagram posts:

  1. 5 Reasons Why No One is Following You on Instagram
  2. How I Gained Over 1k Instagram Followers in Less Than 3 Months
  3. 3 Super Important Things to Consider For Personal Branding

Now that you have the basics out of the way, its time to get more into detail about creating an irresistible instagram profile.

Create a consistent color scheme

Why? I'm glad that you've asked. Colors schemes are visually appealing and people love it. There are a ton of examples that I could use for this post. Some of my favorite instagrammers to check out with kick butt colors schemes are @abeautifulmess and @heartofchic.

Consistency is key people. Rather its an actual colors scheme or filter, stick with it. Using a consistent filter gives your profile a feeling of togetherness. Having a consistent color scheme also gives your followers an idea of what to expect. Instagrammers don't want surprises unless its Beyonce slaying some new music or a surprise performance. All in all, I want you to pick 3 colors or less and stick to them. I've committed to black and white on my instagram, @thejasminediane. 

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Figure out why people are following you and deliver more of that

Which types of post get the most likes and comments? Post more and more of that jaw-dropping content. Enough said.

Get over yourself and follow like-minded instagrammers

THIS ONE IS BIG!!! When you step out into the big world, you realize that there are a ton of people better than you at everything. Stop competing and being arrogant about followers. It's time to connect with people + brands for inspiration. Seeing other creatives post their works inspires me.

I love to read quotes and post them to my page from time to time, but they are always on my feed because of the types of people that I follow. Stop taking this instagram stuff so seriously and learn to enjoy it. Your newsfeed across any given social media channel should inspire you and not leave you mentally drained. 

Okay, I'm done preaching about instagram and I seriously hope that these posts were helpful. I love instagram and my following has grown tremendously in recent months, so I had to drop some knowledge to the people who I loooooves aka my blog readers! I need a sassy little name for my tribe. Suggestions?

Thank you for reading how to create an irresistible instagram profile. Don't forget to follow me on instagram @thejasminediane! Peace.

How to Do It All When You Work Full-time
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Do you feel like it's impossible to accomplish everything on your To Do List? Are you overwhelmed by the amount of items you need to do every week? I get it. This used to be my life until I adapted some of the practices that are listed below. Before you jump into this blog post, I want you to list out what's important to you.

Pause.

How far down your list is your name? Did you make the cut at all? Self-care should be at the top of your list. You cannot give from an empty cup. Use the practices and tips below as guiding lights to finding time for yourself. It has taken me a really long-time to make myself a priority. But in doing so, I've found that I'm happier and more willing to give time and energy to others.

Keep scrolling to find out how to do it all when you work full time.

Trello

Trello is life for my brand. I use it to plan out my week and organize reoccurring business tasks. Trello has a website and mobile app which makes it easy to access at all times. Trello is perfect for side-hustlers who do freelance work along with their day job and run a family. It's been a game changer to see tasks move over to my done board. There are tons of ways to organize boards. For example, you can organize your boards with To-Do by category and priority or by days of the week.

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Social Media Strategy

If you're posting for the sake of posting then you're WASTING TIME AND ENERGY. Click here to read 3 reasons why nobody cares about your brand. You need to invest in a social media or hire me to create a plan for you. You don't have time to waste posting to Facebook and Twitter in real-time. Use a scheduling app like Hootsuite or Facebook's native platform to schedule content in advance. If you're super busy after work with the kids then use Saturday mornings to schedule content for a week at a time. If you can't schedule content for 7 days at a time, then try scheduling for half of the week on Monday evenings. Find a day that works for you then stick to it. If you're super swamped like I am, then hire an assistant to schedule your social media. You will pay in time or coins, so choose wisely.

Delegate Tasks

Are you doing everything well? Even if you're super talented, you aren't the best at everything. Your side-hustle will flourish when you learn to delegate tasks. Delegate things that you're not good at or don't have the time for. Make sure you set a standard and create a process that is easy to follow before looking for someone to delegate a tasks to. You cannot invite someone into chaos and confusion with an expectation of saving time. If you don't set the bar then you'll waste time explaining the same details over and over again. Get it together BEFORE you delegate anything.

Daily Priorities

This one changed the game for me. I was literally driving myself crazy trying to do everything everyday. I was trying to write content, schedule content, engage with my followers, pitch brands and have a WHOLE life all in one day. When I began to use Trello to organize my business tasks by days of the week, life got easier. For example, on Mondays I write content and on Saturdays I film and/or shoot content. Daily priorities give me the power and freedom to skip days if I work ahead. If I can crank out 2 posts along with all email content for 2 weeks then I have a free Monday for "me time." The biggest change that you can make to give yourself time to do it all is to set daily priorities in life and in business.

How to Do It All When You Work A 9 To 5

Set less goals

I used to try to do 30 things in 30 days and was always failing. I know that everything seems important. In the wise words of my Pastor and First Lady, "If everything is important than nothing is." You do not have time to take on 30 goals everyday, but you can set 2 to 5 per week then work on those daily. I like to create huge To-Do List for the month then break those out by: Jasmine Diane, City of Truth Church and Freelance. Within those categories, I give myself 1 to 2 days per week to get each goal accomplished.

Passive Income

Ding ding. Passive income is income that you make with minimal effort. You can sustain your business and increase your life by creating passive income. I sell my branding ebooks and workbooks as passive income. An extra $50 to $100 per month sure does come in handy when it's time to shop or get a manicure. I encourage all side-hustlers to create a few forms of passive income in order to free up time. Passive income is a great way to brand yourself. Click here to read how to brand yourself using free tools.

Positive Energy

You have to change your mindset about getting things done to properly accomplish your goals. Rome wasn't built in one day and neither were you. Give yourself grace when it comes to reaching your goals. Practically speaking, tell yourself that you can accomplish your goals. Your mind must arrive at a destination before your life does. I encourage you to pray and meditate on positive things.

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Philippians 4:8 NLT

I hope that you are not overwhelmed after reading this post. Use these practices and tips to help you become more productive. I wish that I knew I could organize my tasks by days or the week when I first started my business.  Don't waste time like I did.

That's all folks! I hope this post gave you clarity and ideas for ways that you can do it all. Please share your thoughts below and subscribe to my new YouTube channel here. Peace.

How to Style a Red Robe
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I hope you are making 2018 your best year yet. January is coming to a close and I'm on a major high from my first branding workshop this past weekend. But let's get into this look. I'm obsessed with this custom red robe from Coco and Ilia. It's perfect for layering and slayage. I felt like a queen walking up and down Troost to nail these shots. Happy Wednesday!

Thanks for staying until the end. Please subscribe to my new YouTube channel and follow me on Instagram. Peace.

Fashion, StyleJasmine Diane