A couple of months ago, God wrecked my life. He totally changed my life plans. I thought that I had it all figured out, again, and as much as I would like to say that this change has been pleasant the truth of the matter is that it hasn't been. Today I can honestly say that I have learned that pain is only temporary. Yes, it hurts to see someone you care about with someone else, it hurts to lose friends, and it hurts to feel incomplete, but at the end of all of that pain is wisdom and God's best.
God has never taken anything away from me without replacing it with something better. If you follow me on Instagram then you've seen me post a picture with that quote on it. It really speaks to my life and present situations of my career and love life. I thought that I would go back to Kansas City and marry my ex-boyfriend. Much like a few of my closest friends, I am now single and learning to pick up the pieces of myself that somehow got lost in the midst of building my "relationship." I see it time and time again, women lose their goals and dreams in relationships with the wrong man and sometimes even the right guy. But recently, a few of my girls have gotten married to amazing men who spoil them with love and affirmation. As a Christian, I believe that they were blessed to join unions with such great guys by God. I think that soul mates do exists and as hard as it to wait it out, it is necessary. I have always had a boyfriend, honey dip, boo, love, etc., and I never stopped to think that God is a jealous God and He does not want anyone before him.
For a long time I was content with having a boyfriend even if He wasn't God's best for me, but last Sunday I gave my life to Christ again, for real this time, and for some reason I just can't shake the feeling that my prince charming is out there waiting for me to complete my God given tasks before we meet. I am reminded of one of my favorite spoken word pieces, "I Will Wait for You." In the poem, Janette, talks about waiting for the man that God created for her. Surely if she and so many other ladies can wait, then so can I.
Maybe this post is getting too deep for you or you just don't care about my love life, but I had to post it because it matters to someone. Someone reading these words is thinking about going back to their lying, no good boyfriend because she is bored. Someone reading this is scared to leave her abuser because she believes that he will change. I write for you, my sisters. I vow to use my voice to inspire and to uplift. Secrets ruin lives and disrupt purpose. I refuse to settle anymore because I know my worth is far above rubies. Why do you settle for less than God's best? Why are you content with just getting by when God said that you will be prosperous? The easy answer is doubt and fear. For a long time I was afraid of being alone, afraid of losing friends, afraid of the pain, but now I choose to embrace it.
There is a lesson to be learned in every season. Choose to not get stuck in one moment. I was on Facebook looking at videos on stumbled across this message by Bishop T. D. Jakes and he begs the audience to not let 1 moment have them stuck for the next 38 years. That statement made me think long and hard about certain events or people in my life who I have been stuck on. I don't want that for myself ever again and I don't want that for you. Don't get stuck in hatred or bitterness. He left you, so what! He left me too. We weren't the first and we won't be the last. It is time to reflect and grow. We aren't taking any bitterness or hatred into 2015 with us. Now is the time to ask God to forgive us and make us new.
Positivity and peace flow from the same vein. You can choose to change your life. I promise you that it will be worth it. Pain and heartache are only temporary. Thanks for reading and tuning into this weeks Girl Talk post! Feel free to leave any and of your questions and comments below!